Therapy for Codependency and Unhealthy Relationships in
New York, NY, and throughout NY & FL
✦ Set boundaries, build self-worth, and create healthier relationships ✸
♡ BOUNDARIES ♡ SELF-WORTH ♡ EMPOWERED ♡ PEACE ♡ CONFIDENCE ♡ RECOVERY ♡ GROWTH
♡ BOUNDARIES ♡ SELF-WORTH ♡ EMPOWERED ♡ PEACE ♡ CONFIDENCE ♡ RECOVERY ♡ GROWTH
Do you struggle with putting others’ needs before your own? Being assertive? Generally feel anxious in your relationships?
You may struggle with codependency. The good news is that it’s totally possible to heal from codependency with help from Bianca VonBank Therapy. You can have more ease-filled and satisfying relationships in your life. Like with everything, codependency, and dysfunctional relationships fall on a spectrum. We all have some codependent traits, but when these traits begin to overtake your relationships and well-being, it’s time to seek help through Therapy for Codependency in New York, NY.
What is Codependency?
Codependency is dysfunction in our relationships, primarily in how we relate to ourselves and others. This can include our relationships with family, friends, romantic partners, and others. Historically, codependency was thought of as only occurring in relationships affected by addiction. Now we know codependency exists in all kinds of relationships (parent-child, friends, romantic relationships). It often doesn’t involve addiction at all.
People struggling with codependency tend to focus on others and their problems versus caring or prioritizing oneself. This can look like chronic problem-solving, intervening, and worrying about others. This can be a detriment to oneself. Feeling responsible for everyone and everything. Over time this causes anxiety, low mood, interpersonal problems, and loss of confidence.
Codependents often neglect themselves. They feel resentful and unappreciated. They also struggle to set boundaries, deny their own needs, and have low self-worth. They don’t prioritize self-care and have one-sided relationships. Finally, they often find themselves in the role of giver with little to no reciprocation.
How Codependency Develops as a Means of Survival
Codependency occurs when due to lack of self-worth we feel a sense of purpose and safety in caretaking and helping others. Codependents often find themselves in unsatisfying and abusive relationships. This is due to their struggle to believe they deserve better. They also don’t know how to let go of the need to fix and control others or can’t communicate their true needs and feelings.
While being considerate and helpful to others are qualities we all strive for, codependents take it a step further by focusing on others. Even when it negatively impacts their mental health, physical health, finances, and daily functioning.
Codependency often starts in childhood. People growing up in dysfunctional families often start to exhibit the behaviors and beliefs of codependency as a means of survival and coping. People I treat in therapy for codependency often had one or both parents struggle with mental health issues, trauma, and/or addiction.
Signs and Symptoms of Codependency
Below you will find some symptoms or characteristics consistent with codependency or codependent relationships. If any of these apply to you, it might be time to consider speaking with a codependency therapist.
You struggle with trying to please people all the time.
Saying “no” is really hard for you, and you often find yourself sacrificing your time or mental well-being in order to satisfy other’s needs.
You absorb other people’s feelings.
Having a low self-esteem. You often find yourself acting in ways to alleviate the feelings of unworthiness.
You have dysfunctional boundaries. You find yourself willing to do anything for anyone and have trouble setting limits. In some cases, you might find yourself bouncing from rigid boundaries to weak boundaries and not finding the right balance in communicating your feelings or needs with others.
Feeling reactive during times of conflict.
You avoid disagreements or you may find yourself believing someone else’s opinion right away without checking in with yourself about the situation at hand.
You have trouble communicating your thoughts and feelings to others because you don’t want to upset or inconvenience anyone.
Becoming obsessed with any mistakes you have made, or with other peoples’ relationships.
You need other people to like you to feel okay about yourself.
Struggling with intimacy.
You have a hard time being alone.
Your relationships tend to be intense and short-lived or long and on/off again that are filled with a lot of drama and ups and downs.
Struggling with chronic guilt and shame.
You often find yourself in the caretaker, rescuer, or “therapist” role in your relationships.
You have difficulty identifying and processing your emotions.
You have a constant need for approval and validation.
You struggle with making decisions or trusting your own judgment.
You often find yourself feeling anger and resentment, depression, hopelessness, and despair.
Therapy for Codependency Will Help You:
Better identify when you are being mistreated and learn to advocate for yourself
Have a kind, more forgiving relationship with yourself
Decrease perfectionism and people-pleasing
Learn to care for yourself physically and emotionally
Relieve stress and feel relaxed
Better connect with yourself and other healthy people
Be less reactive and more effective in relationships
Let go of unhealthy relationships
Decrease self-doubt and build confidence
Learn to better ask for what you need from others
Learn to let yourself relax, have fun, and play again
Set boundaries
Develop a stronger sense of who you are and connect to your authentic self
Therapy for Codependency Can Support You on Your Journey to Recovery
Bianca VonBank’s Approach to Therapy for Codependency
At Bianca VonBank Therapy, I take a modern and holistic approach to codependency treatment. I believe in empowering clients to set healthy boundaries, practice self-care, and cultivate strong, independent identities. I work to provide a safe and supportive environment. One where women can explore their codependency issues. If you're ready to put yourself first and break free from codependency, I’m here to support you every step of the way.
When it comes to addressing codependency in therapy, there are several effective techniques that can be utilized. These are done to help women break free from unhealthy relationship patterns. It also helps them cultivate a sense of independence and self-worth. Here are some techniques commonly used in my practice at Bianca VonBank Therapy:
Setting Boundaries
Teaching women how to set healthy boundaries is crucial in codependency therapy. This involves recognizing when to say no. It also involves defining personal limits and asserting one's needs in relationships.
Self-Care Practices
Encouraging self-care activities that promote physical, emotional, and mental well-being can help women. Not only in prioritizing themselves but also in building self-esteem.
Identifying and Challenging Maladaptive Beliefs
Exploring and challenging negative thoughts and beliefs that contribute to codependent behaviors is a key aspect of therapy. This can involve cognitive restructuring. It can also involve reframing beliefs about self-worth and relationships.
Developing Healthy Communication Skills
Improving communication skills can help women express their feelings and needs in a clear and assertive manner. This fosters healthier relationships. It also reduces codependent tendencies.
Building Self-Trust and Connecting to Your Intuition
Explore the barriers that may be preventing you from trusting yourself fully. Challenge self-doubt, cultivate self-compassion, and embrace vulnerability. Through this process, you can learn to rely on your own judgment. You can also make decisions with confidence and navigate life's challenges with resilience. Your intuition, often referred to as your inner GPS, is a powerful tool. One that can guide you towards clarity, authenticity, and purpose. By quieting the external chaos and tuning into your inner wisdom, you can make decisions that align with your true desires and values.
Exploring Family Dynamics
Understanding how family dynamics and past experiences contribute to codependent patterns is important. Exploring these relationships can provide valuable insights into ingrained behaviors.
Building Self-Esteem and Autonomy
Fostering self-esteem and autonomy is a central goal of codependency therapy. Helping women build confidence in themselves and their abilities can empower them. This can help them to make positive changes in their relationships.
Other Relationship Challenges I Can Help With:
Family Conflict
Verbal and Emotional Abuse
Adult Children of Alcoholics
Communication Issues
Dating
Parenting and Birth of a Child
Mental Health Issues
Family and In-Laws
Living Together
Intimacy Issues
Break free from Codependency with Therapy for Codependency in New York, NY Today!
Ready to break free from the cycle of codependency and rediscover your sense of self-worth? Therapy for Codependency in New York. NY can provide you with the tools and support you need to make positive changes in your life. I specialize in helping individuals like you understand the root causes of codependent behaviors and develop healthier ways of relating to others. Through working with me at Bianca VonBank Therapy, you can learn to set boundaries, communicate your needs effectively, and cultivate a strong sense of self. You deserve to live a fulfilling and authentic life, and we're here to help you achieve that. Start your journey to recovery and empowerment now. Take the first step towards healing and reclaiming your life by following the steps below:
Reach out to schedule a free, 20-minute consultation.
Speak with an understanding codependency therapist.
Leave codependency in the past and live a happier life!
Other Therapy Services Offered by Bianca VonBank Therapy in New York, NY, and Throughout NY + FL
At Bianca VonBank Therapy, I offer a range of services aimed at supporting your mental health and well-being. In addition to Therapy for Codependency, I provide therapy for other various concerns. These include Anxiety Treatment, Binge Eating Disorder Treatment, and Therapy for Women. Common topics addressed in therapy include body-image issues, burnout, perfectionism, and relationship issues. I am trained in evidence-based practices such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). Whether you're seeking help for a specific problem or looking to enhance your overall mental wellness, I am dedicated to providing personalized and effective care to help you flourish. Reach out today to learn more about how I can help you move on from codependency.